In this episode, hosts Bex and Laura sit down with Ros, who has faced four different pregnancy losses: a miscarriage, a stillbirth, a chemical pregnancy and an ectopic pregnancy.
Ros shares her experiences of each loss, delving into the physical and emotional toll they’ve taken on her. Since each of her losses has been completely different, she is left feeling uncertain and has many unanswered questions about why she is experiencing these losses.
Miscarriage, stillbirth and chemical pregnancy #
After starting to try to conceive, it takes about a year before Ros gets pregnant. However, after 7 weeks of pregnancy, she miscarries. A few months later, she gets pregnant again. Everything seems to be going well. But at 31 weeks week, she finds out at a doctor’s check that there is no heartbeat and that the baby passed away.
Ectopic pregnancy #
After this stillbirth, Ros waits for six months before getting pregnant again. Only to find out she has a chemical pregnancy.
She waits another couple of months and then gets pregnant again. But when she goes to a doctors check, she finds out that she has an ectopic pregnancy: the fertilized egg has implanted outside of her womb. She miscarries, but in the process her fallopian tube ruptures. Because of that, she gets emergency surgery to remove one of her fallopian tubes.
Dealing with four different pregnancy losses #
After all these losses, Ros is now 36 weeks pregnant at the time of recording. As a way to process her experiences, she has written a book about her losses. One of her recommendations to other women going through something similar is to stick a sticker on their doctor’s file. By sticking a sticker on the front of the file that describes what the client has been through, the care provider is reminded to treat them with sensitivity. On her own sticker, Ros has written: pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, chemical pregnancy, and ectopic pregnancy. In some places, doctors might stick such a sticker to the file themselves as well, which says “pregnancy after stillbirth” or “pregnancy after miscarriage.” This can be helpful, but does not always contain the complete story of losses.
Fallopian tube resilience #
Interesting to learn is that removing one fallopian tube doesn’t mean your fertility is reduced to 50%. Instead, the fallopian tube that is still intact will move to the ovary where ovulation is occurring. By altering its position, the fallopian tube will pick up the egg released at ovulation no matter at which side it is.